Cuffing Season for Couples
Cuffing Season often gets a bad rap. Also known as the period of time between fall and spring, this season is often marked by singles seeking short-term cold weather romances. However, many people forget that it’s also a cozy time for long-term couples in serious relationships. Today it’s 16 degrees in New York City. I’m heading upstate for a weekend with my boo. His apartment is drafty, but we do our best to keep it cozy.
By the way, it’s Feb 1st, which means we’re deep into Cuffing Season! When the weather really turns cold, that’s the time for staying indoors with your sweetie, and enjoying all kinds of indoor activities. Of course a lot of sex happens during that time, but what else do you do during all of the other togetherness time between sex and nap sessions?
Do not fret, my pet. I have some ideas… Of course I even added an Amazon shopping list, because who wants to go out in this weather?!
Live That Hygge Life
Hygge (pronounced hue-guh) is a Danish word that means a feeling of coziness, alone or with friends, at home or out. The Danes often experience long and dark winters, which leads to darker moods. To counteract those long cold nights, they created hygge, which is charming and cozy atmosphere in the home. Imagine living rooms with twinkle lights, and bedrooms with comfy comforters. It’s all about creating an atmosphere that you never want to leave.
The term hygge went viral globally the winter of 2017, because who doesn’t want to be snuggled up with a lover inside, while it’s chilly outside? As soon as temperatures drop, it’s time to “get hygge with it”. Make your love nest as cozy as possible, whether or not you and your man live together. Cultivate hygge to avoid boredom when you find yourself spending all of your weekends together.
Another definition of hygge is “an art of creating intimacy” (either with yourself, friends and your home). There’s no one English word or simple definition to describe hygge. However words such as coziness, contentment, comfort, kinship, and simplicity describe the idea pretty well.
The first defense against winter darkness is creating atmosphere with light. If you don’t have a fireplace, you can also use candles and twinkle lights. Besides, not much can beat firelight for setting a romantic mood.
Netflix should come as no surprise for Cuffing Season, as you can binge watch TV series, or watch all kind of movies while you’re nice and cozy inside, while it’s cold outside. Winter was made for “Netflix and Chill”!
“Bird Box” movie was a huge hit for Netflix over the holidays as people were at home chilling with their loved ones. Long term couples among us started the New Year binge-watching “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo” while purging extra stuff before moving in together. Hey, romance is all in the eye of the beholder!
Sexy loungewear is preferred to wearing old ratty t-shirts around the house, when you’re spending a lot of indoor time with your boo. Take the time to find some cute clothes to wear while you’re hanging out, watching Netflix.
I even took my own advice this year, and got the wine colored off the shoulder tracksuit. I have to admit that it’s a step up from my usual flannel lumberjack pajamas.
Cooking For Two
Food delivery is great, but there’s nothing like a home-cooked meal on a cold winter’s night. Soups and stews are perfect Cuffing Season additions, and you don’t have to be a major chef to make them. If you really want to get romantic, try cooking some meals together. If things get heated in the kitchen, remember to turn off the stove before heading to the bedroom!
Board Games For Couples
Spend some of those cooler evenings indoors with board games and puzzles. Perhaps you want to teach your fella how to play Scrabble or chess (or he can teach you). Of course, strip poker is always an option!
Remember Birth Control!
I should note the importance of birth control, unless you’re actively trying to get pregnant. Cuffing Season could also be called “baby making season”, as the highest birth rates occur during August and September (9 months after Cuffing Season). So don’t take any unnecessary chances.
Enjoy Cuffing Season!