Rapper Drake’s new song “Hotline Bling” is getting a lot of attention these days because it’s catchy (plus folks like ragging on his dancing skills in the video), but after hearing the lyrics, I find that the song is the PERFECT example of successful “Leaning Back” in action.
If you have already purchased Katarina Phang’s book, “He’s Really That Into You, He’s Just Not Ready”, and joined her Feminine Magnetism group on Facebook, then you’re already well-versed in what leaning back is about. As a member and moderator of the group, I know how often we repeat that “Lean Back!” mantra to each other all day and night.
And that’s because leaning back resets your goddess energy!
The lyrics to Drake’s “Hotline Bling” show you just how well leaning back works.
Drake’s “Hotline Bling” Video
So you can see Drake’s “Hotline Bling” video dance moves for yourself 🙂
Drake’s “Hotline Bling” Lyrics
The main idea behind Drake’s “Hotline Bling” lyrics is that Drake moved away and left his girl behind. He’s butthurt because she used to call him to hook up, but now that he’s gone, she’s moved on with her life. In my opinion, he took her for granted, and expected her to be at his beck and call – even though HE is the one that moved away. Really, Son?
Here are some of Drake’s “Hotline Bling” lyrics (with my commentary, of course):
You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
So I used to offer you booty calls, and you were happy to oblige. 🙂 I had a pattern of leaning forward and pursuing you. We probably had great sex, and you knew that I was into you. But I don’t really know how much you’re into me, except that you’re “not ready for a relationship”.
Ever since I left the city,
You got a reputation for yourself now…
Everybody knows and I feel left out
Girl you got me down, you got me stressed out
Let me get this straight. YOU are the one who left town, but you want ME to just stay home, and call you just to chat? Who said I was interested in a long distance relationship anyway? You should have considered me when you thought about moving away. You might be stressed enough to write a song about it, but you weren’t stressed enough to ask me to come with you. Just sayin.
‘Cause ever since I left the city,
you started wearing less and goin’ out more
Glasses of champagne out on the dance floor
Hangin’ with some girls I’ve never seen before
Um, again, YOU left town. A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do, and some of that means staying busy and finding new guys to date who are LOCAL. Instead of staying home crying, I’m making new friends and enjoying my life. And by the way, I’m sure that you’d rather I walk around in a burlap bag for a dress after you left me behind, but ain’t nobody got time for that.
The Moral of Drake’s “Hotline Bling”
The moral of Drake’s “Hotline Bling” is that Girlfriend was leaning forward when she was calling her guy on his “cell phone late at night”. All that pursuing did NOT inspire him to stay in town, or ask her to come with him. Now that the woman is leaning back, and refocused on herself, he finds himself missing her. Oh, the irony!!!
[“Hotline Bling” writer(s): Aubrey Graham, Timmy Thomas, Paul Jefferies
Copyright: Emi Music Publishing Ltd., Emi Longitude Music, Nyankingmusic, Emi April Music Inc.]
Katarina Phang’s “Leaning Back” Method
If you’re not familiar with Katarina Phang’s “Leaning Back” method, it basically means letting a man be a man, and allowing him to pursue you. That means staying in the moment, and not pushing your relationship agenda. Ever since the Equal Rights Amendment, Sisters have been doing it for themselves, and bringing home the bacon for years. But men are still ruled by the desire to be the one who leads in a relationship.
Back in the day, looong before Equal Rights, our grandmothers were taught to lean back and not chase a man. Men courted women, and if the woman liked him, she’d respond to his attentions. After we became more liberated as a gender, we fought for equality in every arena, including relationships. Women are now comfortable pursuing men, calling, texting, and even proposing marriage to them!
But the thing is, I don’t believe that men enjoy being pursued. Men want to lead, and they enjoy the thrill of the chase. That is why many men enjoy hunting. Men like to spot, track, and conquer their prey. Hunting would be no fun whatsoever if a deer just showed up on his doorstep and waited to be taken. And it’s no fun for a man if you are the one to always show up at his door, always call and text without allowing him to make moves of his own.
Most importantly: If you are the one making all the moves in a relationship, how do you know if he’s truly interested in you, and not just lazy???
Men tend to prefer the flirty cat and mouse mating dance to jumping into a relationship. Men like their freedom and independence, and will not give that up easily. They also like dating other women, or at least the feeling that they are free to do so. On the other hand, a woman will often lock her sights on a man, let him know in various ways that she’s interested in a relationship, and then wonder why he doesn’t show much interest. The answer is often that there wasn’t enough mystery to keep him intrigued. Or he isn’t magnetized to you (he just isn’t into you “enough”).
To lean back is to simply refocus on YOURSELF and your life, and not concern yourself with the outcome of a relationship. Stay in the moment, and allow life to unfold. You really do not know where life will take either of you.
Kat Phang didn’t invent “Leaning Back”, but she’s a master at teaching it, and when she posted Drake’s Hotline Video in the group yesterday, I knew I had to blog about it.
If you’ve caught yourself “leaning forward”, calling or texting a man so many times that his desire has cooled, please check out Katarina Phang’s book, “He’s Really That Into You, He’s Just Not Ready”, and I hope to see you inside her Feminine Magnetism group!